Psychologist; Speaker; Author, Fix A Broken Heart
Guy Winch is a licensed psychologist, author, and keynote speaker. An advocate for integrating the science of emotional health into our daily lives, workplaces, and education systems, he has given two TED Talks — “Why We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid” and “How to Fix a Broken Heart” — that have been viewed over 15 million times. Winch’s books include The Squeaky Wheel: Complaining the Right Way to Get Results, Improve Your Relationships and Enhance Self-Esteem; Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts; and How to Fix a Broken Heart. He is a member of the American Psychological Association.
When we experience an emotional wound, we really just want one thing, says Guy Winch. We want to have our emotions validated and we want to feel understood. So the next time you’re late meeting a friend or forget an anniversary, start with validating your friend or partner’s feelings. Before the excuses, explanations, and “buts,” says Winch, you must acknowledge their emotions. Not only is this cathartic for them, it allows you to offer your side of the story.